Let's talk about love

"All our young lives we search for someone to love. Someone who makes us complete. We choose partners & change partners. We dance to a song of heartbreak & hope. All the while wondering if somewhere, somehow, there's someone perfect who might be searching for us."

- Narrator in The Wonder Years (1988) -

We have all been explorers; explorers of every aspect and corner of the heart, both our own and those of others. Through our travels and excursions we have all experienced hope and faith, smiles and tears, dreams and promises. For some the travel started with a smile, grew with a kiss while for others it ended in tears and heartache. Regardless the outcome, we have all been explorers of heart, learning to love, learning to trust, learning to be ourselves.

I recall the day I first fell in love. What a beautiful Autumn day it was. I’m not going to bore you with the details, nor tell you my whole biography, but the primary thing you should know is that that moment in which you fall in love, your life changes completely. I still look back at that very day in March of 2006 with the most precious memories. Some things in life are meant to last forever. And beautiful memories we have made with the one true love of lives are one of those things.

All my young life I have searched for someone to love, someone who made me feel complete. As mentioned earlier, I found him in 2006. I chose him as my partner and I too danced to a song of hope. I loved him with all my heart, I still do today and I know that I will never be able to love anyone as much as I love him ever again. Unfortunately friends he did not see in me what I saw in him. He decided to change partners, exploring his heart even further, moving on from where I was left behind in search of a love better suited for him.

Today I dance the dance of heartache, a true love lost and end in tears. I’m left with only the sweet memories he wrote on pages of heart’s travel journal. In the mean while I will continue to wonder if somewhere, somehow this perfect love of mine will search for me again. And if he does, if he will find me and let me explore his heart and mine again. As for now my friends, my love for him is like the wind, I can’t see it, but I feel it. So if you want to talk about love… what I have for him is love!

ECDJ

Let's talk about friends

 

Someone very special (ilym) once told me that all people come into our lives for a reason. Some stay only a few months while others last through all the seasons. It is those that stick with you, through thick and thin, regardless the circumstances, that you can call true friends.

We all have a very unique definition to the term friendship, each with a unique set of attributes, connotations and expectations. Regardless of every person’s connotation to the word, it all comes down to the same thing; friends are those people we want to share our lives with. They are the ones we turn to when our hearts are sad, the ones we look forward to laughing and smiling with. They are the ones that make us feel good about life and about ourselves. They are the ones that can see us through anything.

Some people wait many years before they find a crowd they fit into, a friend to confine in, a true friend to trust with absolutely anything in life. Some people think they have found such a person or group and end up disappointed or hurt when trust is broken or promises are not kept. Some search all their life and never experience the true joy of loving and loyal friendship. Others have always had it, experienced it and often neglect appreciating it.

As for myself; I do consider myself lucky. I know but a few people I can truly call friends. I have lost many people so dear to my heart that I know will never be a part of my life again. I have cried nights away, dreamed impossible dreams, hoped for my life to change in many ways… and many things stayed the same and will continue to do so in the future. But I have come to learn that those friends you do have in your life are precious jewels that should be safeguarded in your heart, for they might not be there tomorrow.

Advice; never forget to notice, pay attention to and appreciate those people you know you can consider your true friends. There will come a day when they will no longer be there. Don’t be the one to regret missing out on an opportunity to have loved and appreciated them. And rest assured; they will appreciate you too.

ECDJ